1. What Is Inner Peace?

Inner peace (or peace of mind) refers to a state of being mentally and spiritually at peace, with enough knowledge and understanding to keep oneself strong in the face of discord or stress. Being "at peace" is considered by many to be healthy (homeostasis) and the opposite of being stressed or anxious. Peace of mind is generally associated with bliss and happiness.

Peace of mind, serenity, and calmness are descriptions of a disposition free from the effects of stress. In some cultures, inner peace is considered a state of consciousness or enlightenment that may be cultivated by various forms of training, such as prayer, meditation, T'ai Chi Ch'uan or yoga, for example. Many spiritual practices refer to this peace as an experience of knowing oneself. Finding inner peace is often associated with traditions such as Buddhism and Hinduism.

Tenzin Gyatso, the 14th Dalai Lama, emphasizes the importance of inner peace in the world: "The question of real, lasting world peace concerns human beings, so basic human feelings are also at its roots. Through inner peace, genuine world peace can be achieved. In this the importance of individual responsibility is quite clear; an atmosphere of peace must first be created within ourselves, then gradually expanded to include our families, our communities, and ultimately the whole planet."

 a Man Thinketh

As a Man Thinketh is a classic self-help book, written by James Allen (1864-1912), a British philosophical writer. In the last chapter of the book, James Allen expounded serenity, calmness of mind.

A man in calmness of mind ceases to fuss, fume, worry, and grieve. He remains poised, steadfast, and serene.

A calm man has a tranquil heart, a sweet-tempered, balanced life. It does not matter whether it rains or shines, or what changes come to him, for he is always serene and calm. He makes the winds and the storms of the soul obey him.

2. Who Can Attain Inner Peace?

Any person can attain inner peace as long as he is earnest to attain it and willing to devote the necessary time and energy.

Inner peace is not the privilege of special people. It is not reserved only to yogis, hermits or monks, sitting alone in a far off place, praying or meditating all day long. It can also be attained by people living an ordinary life, who have a job, married and with children.

3. How to Attain Inner Peace?

Inner peace is independent of external conditions and circumstances. It comes from within.

James Allen, in As a Man Thinketh, believed that calmness of mind is the result of long and patient effort in self-control. Its presence is an indication of ripened experience, and of a more than ordinary knowledge of the laws and operations of thought.

Inner peace begins with transformation of our mind. When things go wrong in our life and we encounter difficult situations, we tend to regard the situation itself as the problem, but in reality whatever problems we experience come from the mind. If we were to respond to difficulties with a positive or peaceful mind, they would not be problems for us; indeed we may even come to regard them as challenges or opportunities for growth and development. Problems arise only if we respond to situations with a negative state of mind. Therefore, if we want to transform our life and be free from problems, we must learn to transform our mind. Sufferings, problems, worries, unhappiness, and pain all exist within our mind; they are all unpleasant feelings, which are part of the mind. Through controlling and purifying our mind we can stop them once and for all.

Meditation-Learning 
There are two purposes or types of meditation. The first as well as basic one is to reach the peaceful state in our mind. The second one is to become wise. I’m now learning at the first stage.

The general posture for meditation is sitting. We can sit on a cushion with our back straight and eyes closed. We may make our legs crossed or one leg bending while the other stretching. Two hands cross on the thighs with arms naturally falling down. The posture rules do not need obeying strictly, but the point is to find a posture which makes you feel refreshed and relaxed.

In order to get the peace, we concentrate all our focus on our breath. Feel our breath coming in and going out. My teacher also suggested that people can focus on the movement of their stomach while breathing, instead of on the breath which is harder to follow. This is said to be able to help avoid breathing intentionally and distracting your concentration.

However, to me it’s just the opposite works! I prefer to feel the breath as following the movement of my stomach could make me breathe intentionally and totally distract my concentration. So I think it depends. The point is to choose a way which makes you feel comfortable and helps you concentrate.

Ultimate Objective of Life
Is happiness our ultimate objective of life?

No, as I mentioned in Can We Be Happy All The Time?

Life is like a roller coaster. We all experience ups and downs, highs and lows at different moments. It’s natural as happiness and unhappiness are the two ingredients in our lives. 

Understanding that in mind, we wouldn’t and shouldn’t be overjoyed when happiness comes, neither would and should we be overwhelmed when unhappiness comes. We know that both of them are just temporary status and will be gone soon, that they are interdependent and one comes while the other goes.

Thus, we become calmful as they come and go, and we handle them with easiness and gentleness. We reach the state of peaceful and stable mind, which is exactly the ultimate objective of our life.

Can We Be Happy All The Time?

To your disappointment, the answer is “definitely not”. Even if you are regarded as a happy person on the whole, you’ve still got sometime when you are unhappy and feeling sad. Let alone normal people who often have ups and downs.

If so, do we still need to look for happiness? Definitely.

In my opinion, being happy is more like having a wise opinion towards life, rather than just a state of mind. To seek happiness is not to look for fun in life, but to seek a balanced life.

What does a balanced life look like?

Some of the important factors contributing to a balanced life are: optimistic, positive, lenient, patient and unruffled quality.

The good news is, those qualities can be learned. Therefore, we all can live a happy life although we may not be happy all the time.

What are the keys to a balanced life?

I’ve got some sources of that, and would like to share with you in the future one by one.

What are your keys to a balanced life? Maybe you can write it down here and we can talk about it.

Gratitude 

After establishing and keeping the habit of gratitude for some days, I’ve found that it’s quite preliminary to just list the 2-3 positive things in our life, which is the result of Gratitude (Being thankful for all the positive things in our life).

It’s, however, far from enough. To really appreciate our life and be happy, we must as well be grateful for all the negative things, such as unhappiness, stress, hardship, failure, unfortune, so-called disgusting people, and so on, which is Gratitude.

Being grateful for all the positive things makes us value our friends and life more. While being grateful for all the negative things will make us free from complaints or frustration, focus on the positive side of life, and turn bad things into good ones.

I used to be afraid of unhappiness. When it came, I was so frustrated and couldn’t get out of it. Later, I realized unhappiness is quite normal, and it happens now and then to any one. I began to accept it and thank it for letting me know happiness and unhappiness consist of our life, for letting me calm down when it came again, and for letting me value happiness more and think out all the ways to happiness.

I also used to be afraid of stress and challenges. I felt uneasy of uncertainty. Later I realized they are also the composition of life and make people creative. Now I can accept them calmly.

Likewise, we should thank hardship and failure for giving us the opportunities to learn and grow. When you learn to be thankful, you find how true it is that every time that you fall, you are much closer to success.

Let’s update our mind system and learn to thank all the unfavorable things as well as the favorable ones.

I should thank the unfortune that happened last week, which made me know the rules of the company, how Sinaporeans think and react and how I should communicate with them.

I should thank my uncooperative room mate for letting me know the different types of people and think how to deal with the problem properly.

I should thank my Toastmaster friend although he made me frustrated, for giving me the opportunity to think about what a good leader should do.

A good attitude of gratitude actually helps you more calmfully accept all the things in life. It’s no big deal when you encounter the negative things, just relax and learn to thank them.

Way to Happiness & Peace - Gratitude

I heard a lot about being grateful for every little thing before. And one of my former colleagues also told me how great he feels about being grateful for every thing.

I was wondering why we should be grateful for every thing, since some things were the results of our own hard work, and some things were meant to be there.

For example, I used to be seldom grateful for my achievement since I thought it was the result of my hard work. I used to be seldom grateful for getting to know some friends since I thought we happened to meet. I also used to be seldom grateful for the food or other things I owned since I thought I paid for them.

In the past, I only thanked my hardships and failures as I thought they made me grow and became stronger.

Changes came without being noticed.

I don’t remember when and why I’ve begun to become thankful to many things, even those I used to think they were naturally there.

I thank my friends for guiding me on my way to achieve my goals, thus I discovered another different and exciting world and life, I discovered the potential and energy deep inside me, and I’ve been living a passionate and happy life! 

I thank my land couple for providing such a good and cozy place for me that I could live happily and contentedly.

I thank my company for giving me the chance to work for them so that I could have a whole new experience in another country.

I thank the food provider for serving such delicious meals. What a wonderful chef!

I even thank destiny or God for helping me meet so many nice people.

I suddenly find there are so many things to be thanked.

As I’m filled with gratitude for many things, I feel happier when I’m with them.

Yes! Gratitude makes you happier. Gratitude makes you appreciate every thing so that there’s little room for anger, hatred, or impatience.

I’ve decided to be more grateful. Here are my plans.

1. Every day gratitude ritual. Show my gratitude for at least two things just at the 
    moment that I open my eyes in the morning or close my eyes in the evening.

2. Get ready to show gratitude to every little thing at any time.

Let’s move forward together.

A Long Way to Go into Peace

Some negative mindsets have been annoying me these past few days.

I thought I had got much improvement on getting a peaceful mind, which turned out to be a kind of illusion. In fact, those negative mindsets have been there all along, and they were merely covered by the temporary happiness resulted from idleness.

I falsely thought they were the same. The truth is, temporary happiness is different from peace in mind. Being happy doesn’t mean I’ve got a peaceful mind. I’ve still got a long way to go. Meanwhile, I should not deny my progress in being positive. Just as I said, they are different things, and they should be improved side by side.

<Impatience>

I found I’m too easy to get angry. Mostly, it is the result of my impatience.

Patience can be understood or defined in different ways. In my dictionary, it means the mindset that is eager for the result, the intolerability of process. Someone impatient needs things to happen immediately. They can be furious about the long and tedious process. Comparatively, they may be incredibly patient with someone with slow mind and keep explaining and talking to him. I think it’s more out of respect. So from the former definition, I’m an impatient person.

Impatience can make you very angry and frustrated. I haven’t found a way to improve. Maybe likewise, I should show respect to those processes as well as I did to slow people. Understand every thing needs a process. Some ever say, process itself is beautiful. Maybe. I haven’t found and enjoyed that.

I’ll do some researches and discussed with you in the future.

If you have good suggestions, leave them in the comment.

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20 Reasons Why You Need Inner Peace and Tranquility

Inner peace is not reserved only to yogis, hermits or monks, living in some far away place, praying or meditating all day long. It can also be attained by people living an ordinary life, who have a job, are married and have kids.

What is inner peace? It is a state of being emotionally and mentally at peace, without restless or disturbing thoughts, and being in control of one's mind, moods and reactions.

True inner peace is independent of external conditions and circumstances, and is acquired through special training. It confers tranquility, inner harmony and balance, and the ability to remain calm, undisturbed and in control of oneself and of the situation in difficult and unpleasant situations. It is important not only while things move smoothly, but especially in times of trouble, difficulties or danger. Then it counts most.

A state of inner peace eliminates anxieties, fears and worries, negative thoughts, stress, lack of satisfaction and unhappiness. It is a state of emotional and mental poise, happiness, confidence and inner strength.

Though everyone desires it, albeit unconsciously, few realize its importance and benefits, and still fewer know that it is a skill that can be learned and developed. You can continue living where you are, without making external changes in your life, and yet attain inner peace. Some might progress fast and some at a slower pace. Some might reach far and others not so far, yet, everyone can make some progress that will transform their life.

Here are 20 reasons why you need inner peace:

1.    It improves your ability to concentrate.
2.    It improves your ability to handle efficiently the daily 
     affairs of life.
3.    It increases your inner strength and power.
4.    Its possession eliminates impatience, anger, nervousness 
    and restlessness.
5. It helps manifesting patience, tolerance and tact.
6. It makes you feel centred, grounded and stable.
7. Being mentally and emotionally calm contributes to
    enjoying better sleep.
8. You gain the ability to be emotionally and mentally
    unaffected by what people think or say about you.
9. You gain the ability to eliminate stress, anxieties and
    worries.
10. You enjoy happiness and bliss.
11. You gain self mastery and self discipline.
12. It helps you relax your body and nerves.
13. The healing energies of the body work unhindered.
14. Being peaceful enables you not to be swayed by events,
      hardships and difficulties, and to maintain inner poise,
      clear judgement and common sense in such situations.
15. Inner peace eliminates negative, futile and restless
      thinking.
16. It improves your relationships with other people.
17. It makes life look brighter.
18. It increases creativity.
19. A peaceful mind improves the ability to meditate.
20. Possessing this ability opens the gateway to
      enlightenment and spiritual awakening.

There are various ways to attain inner peace, such as psychological means, affirmations, visualization, yoga and meditation. A full program on this subject, written in a manner and language everyone can understand and follow, with instructions, advice and exercises, can be found in the book Peace of Mind in Daily Life.

 Inner Peace

If we want to transform our life and be free from problems we must learn to transform our mind.

When things go wrong in our life and we encounter difficult situations we tend to regard the situation itself as the problem, but in reality whatever problems we experience come from the mind. If we were to respond to difficulties with a positive or peaceful mind they would not be problems for us; indeed we may even come to regard them as challenges or opportunities for growth and development. Problems arise only if we respond to situations with a negative state of mind. Therefore, if we want to transform our life and be free from problems we must learn to transform our mind. Sufferings, problems, worries, unhappiness, and pain all exist within our mind; they are all unpleasant feelings, which are part of the mind. Through controlling and purifying our mind we can stop them once and for all.
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Welcome to Find Peace of Mind

All living beings have the same basic wish to be happy and avoid suffering, but very few people understand the real causes of happiness and suffering.

All living beings have the same basic wish to be happy and avoid suffering, but very few people understand the real causes of happiness and suffering. We generally believe that external conditions such as food, friends, cars, and money are the real causes of happiness, and as a result we devote nearly all our time and energy to acquiring these. Superficially it seems that these things can make us happy, but if we look more deeply we shall see that they also bring us a lot of suffering and problems.

Happiness and Suffering

Happiness and suffering are opposites, so if something is a real cause of happiness it cannot give rise to suffering. If food, money, and so forth really are causes of happiness, they can never be causes of suffering; yet we know from our own experience that they often do cause suffering. For example, one of our main interests is food, but the food we eat is also the principal cause of most of our ill health and sickness. In the process of producing the things we feel will make us happy we have polluted our environment to such an extent that the very air we breathe and the water we drink now threaten our health and well-being. We love the freedom and independence a car can give us, but the cost in accidents and environmental destruction is enormous. We feel that money is essential for us to enjoy life, but the pursuit of money also causes immense problems and anxiety. Even our family and friends, with whom we enjoy so many happy moments, can also bring us a lot of worry and heartache.

Happiness and suffering are states of mind, and so their main causes cannot be found outside the mind.

In recent years our understanding and control of the external world have increased considerably, and as a result we have witnessed remarkable material progress; but there has not been a corresponding increase in human happiness. There is no less suffering in the world today, and there are no fewer problems. Indeed, it could be said that there are now more problems and greater unhappiness than ever before. This shows that the solution to our problems, and to those of society as a whole, does not lie in knowledge or control of the external world.

Why is this? Happiness and suffering are states of mind, and so their main causes cannot be found outside the mind. The real source of happiness is inner peace. If our mind is peaceful, we shall be happy all the time, regardless of external conditions, but if it is disturbed or troubled in any way, we shall never be happy, no matter how good our external conditions may be. External conditions can only make us happy if our mind is peaceful.

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The Buddhists distinguish two types of peace: internally based and externally based.  By definition externally-based peace cannot last.  There will be disruptions, accidents, and disappointments in our lives.  Thus, the Buddhist perspective (and other spiritual traditions) recommends cultivating peace of mind. 
This requires discipline, perspective, and practice. 

Reasons to Maintain Inner Peace

1.      It is more enjoyable to do so

       2.      One maintains more control over oneself and one's life
       3.      It makes one appear and be a stronger person

4.      It lowers one's stress level

5.      It is better for one's health and, possibly, digestion

6.      It makes one more pleasant to be around

7.      It is more socially responsible

8.      It helps one maintain better social relations

Spiritual Justifications to Maintain Peace of Mind

1.     Everything happens for a reason, is purposeful

2.     We are all ignorant, thus none are wholly to blame

3.     Why become upset over something which one cannot control?

4.     One's way of being effects others; we are social beings

5.     A peaceful mind creates good karma for oneself in the future

6.     Rash thoughts or actions create bad karma for oneself

7.     Rash thoughts or actions often lead to spiritual and emotional regret

8.    Being human entails some responsibility to be mindful; think about our  thinking

 Methods for Maintaining Peace of Mind

1.     This is the plane of ignorance, all can be forgiven

2.     If the person were wise they would not have harmed us, unless

3.    We are being unwise in which case we should be thankful for our improvement

4.    The other party could be bringing us a karma debt or karmic lesson; serving us

5.     By accepting karma debt or a lesson we pay off and complete the karma

6.     By not responding aggressively, we maintain our dignity

7.     By not responding aggressively, we do not create any future bad karma

8.    By letting go of our expectations for different behaviour, we are more complete

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As human beings we all want to be happy and free from misery...
we have learned that the key to happiness is inner peace.

The greatest obstacles to inner peace are disturbing emotions such as
anger, attachment, fear and suspicion,

while love and compassion and a sense of universal responsibility
are the sources of peace and happiness.    – The 14^th  Dalai Lama

 What is Tao?

It is just this.

It cannot be rendered into speech.

If you insist on an explanation,

This means exactly this.  - Lu Tung Pin

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Watch your thoughts, they become words.

Watch your words, they become actions.

Watch your actions, they become habits.

Watch your habits, they become character.

Watch your character, it becomes destiny.  - Patrick Overton

We Must BE Peace Ourselves to Create Peace

The search for inner peace began before any written history. Long thought a luxury of the rich and of monks, inner peace has become a high priority in modern times. It is in fact, the only way to world peace.

Only those who know peace and live in peace in their personal lives have the ability to bring peace to our world. Those who still fight everything around them are not capable of creating peace. It is a foreign concept to them.

Every human being on the planet seems to have in common a desire for world peace. Why then, is the world still at war? War has not succeeded in creating peace. It cannot. We can't solve a problem with the same energy that created it.

Peace must spread as a wave across the planet as individuals make the choice for peace in their hearts and in their lives. We can only create peace by being peace. This may seem an impossible task for some, but it is possible because it is a personal choice. You can choose to be peaceful in your spirit, in your thoughts, and in your actions. It takes effort. It takes diligence. Most of all, it takes a choice.

If you are looking for help to find "the peace that passes all understanding" and live with peace as the rule of your life, not the exception, then this page may be helpful.
If you live in personal peace and want to take that peace out into the world, then read on. You will find information about activities and events to participate in as an instrument of peace.
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Peace Begins Within 
People ask:
1) “How can I be peaceful if you're too stressed?”

What if you don't feel any peace in your heart or mind? How do you get there?
Meditation is a great way to develop inner peace by stilling the mind of its worries and projections. But if you have trouble meditating, you may need some other tools.
Music is one of the best tools for experiencing peace because it reaches beyond the conscious mind to touch the unconscious and the heart. What kind of music are you listening to most of the time? Does it make you feel happy or peaceful? You wouldn't want to listen to meditation music all the time, but it is a valuable tool for quiet times, study, and writing.

Aromatherapy or incense, with or without candles, can calm the mind and soothe the spirit. Take a few extra minutes before you sit down to read, pray, meditate, create, or write. Light a candle and some incense or use an aromatherapy diffuser to add a healing or inspiring aroma to your space.

Tabletop fountains can be appealing to look at and the sound is very relaxing. You might consider putting one on your desk, night stand, or a table near your favourite reading chair.

Prayer and reading spiritual books have worked for countless people to bring their frantic minds and troubled hearts to peace. The key is to give your concerns over ... and leave them there!

Raising your vibratory frequency will also elevate your emotional state. One powerful way to do that is to listen to recordings made in the Solfeggio scale. This is the musical scale used by Gregorian monks to create their famous chants. They were created to align our energy, which results in healing on all levels.
  2. "How Do You Find Peace When You're Devastated?”
Peace, even through the worst days.

When we most need peace seems to be the most difficult time to find it. Yet many people find their greatest peace, a lasting peace, because of devastation. It doesn't have to be that way, but it often is because it takes complete helplessness for some of us to fully let go of everything and trust God/Source/Spirit to take care of us.
When your life is in turmoil and you don't know how to cope, that is when you most need to surrender. Many of us have been raised to be fighters and survivors. What that has gotten us is always fighting to survive. It is not an efficient way to live and certainly not a joyful way. Surrender is the answer.

When we are finally ready to let go of the reigns on our life, who are we giving them to? We give control of our lives to the originator of our lives. No one knows better how to guide us, inspire us, AND support us. We may resist giving our lives over to an unseen force, but get desperate enough, and you will! It's important to understand that surrendering to All That Is not weak. It's not "copping out" or running away or avoiding responsibility, and it's usually not easy.

For me, it takes a conscious choice; one that must be repeated regularly. I decide that I am turning my needs over to God and TRUSTING that God can and will fulfill them perfectly. Then I listen for guidance, which I could not hear when I was worrying about my problems.

When I was hit by a car and lying on my back in the middle of a busy intersection, in terrible pain, fear, and shock, I felt a deep peace in the midst of devastation. So much more was at stake than just being injured. I saw a bright light, brighter than the sun, but it didn't hurt my eyes. A voice came from that light and told me that everything was alright. It rang with authority and I trusted it implicitly. The peace and calm stayed with me until sometime in the emergency room.

I no longer wait until I'm flat on my back to turn things over to the highest authority, let go, and trust. Peace comes a little easier these days, but I still have to remind myself to let go.

Ah,h,h,h!  Sigh of Relief

Did you know that you can quickly and easily release tension just by giving a sigh of relief? Try it. Take in a big, deep breath. Now let it out with a sigh. Say, "Ah,h,h,h!" as you let it out. Try it again.

When we do this, we are actually releasing endorphins in the brain that enter the bloodstream and go out to our whole body. Muscle tension eases, digestion improves, and pain can even be relieved a bit just by doing this simple exercise.
The sound of "ah, ah, ah, ah" as we release the breath also has a psychological impact on us. It is the sound we naturally make when something feels good or when we feel relief. The cool thing is that we can bring the sense of relief and release by making the sound. We don't have to wait to make the sound until after we have a release.
Try doing this three or four times in a row. You'll feel more relaxed immediately. It helps with physical tension, fear, pain, and even depression. The most important thing is to remember to do it while your in that stressful place; not wait until later.
So, give a big sigh of relief.
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Resentment, Regret, and Resistance Prevent Peace 

The Three R's have to Go

When we hold onto resentments, regret something in our lives, or resist what is, peace has no place to settle in. The three R's have to go. There's just no way around it. We cannot know peace while they occupy space in our hearts and minds.
It is for our own benefit that we must forgive and let go, not just the mistakes that others have made, but also our own. No one judges us more harshly than we do. Regret is actually holding a resentment towards ourselves for something that didn't go well. In regretting any part of our lives, we are rejecting a part of ourselves.
Think of a tall tower made of brick. Each brick in the tower is a part of your life. When we regret, resent, or reject anything in our lives, we are pulling bricks out of the tower. How strong do you think the tower of who you are will be if you are always pulling out the bricks you don't like? Every experience we have had has taught us something and in some way furthered our growth. Every one has been there to contribute to a stronger, wiser, more courageous and compassionate person; the person we are now.
"Every one really does the best they can with what they know and where they are." I heard that many years ago and it stuck with me, though it took quite a while to live by it. I had to learn to apply it to myself as well. The more I looked back on my life, without placing blame, the more I saw that people were just acting from their own experience and awareness. Even me.

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Forgiveness is Freedom 

A Peaceful Heart Bares No Malice

We all know that we need to forgive those that have hurt us or let us down. Resentment only hurts the one who holds it. As long as we hold on to our resentments, we tie the person and event that caused us pain to us. It becomes a burden, which holds us down and prevents us from realizing the happy and fulfilling life that we could have. I have tried just saying I forgive so and so. It does not work. It does not remove the emotional charge from the memory or cut the ties that bind us to the past. I had to turn once again to meditation and the power of my imagination.

In meditation, I began with focusing on the qualities of God with my attention in my heart. Once I felt my heart swell with love and peace, I pictured the person I needed to forgive. I spoke to them as if they were right in front of me. It was important for me to tell them how I feel, which is to say, how I felt at the time that I felt hurt. Then I would tell them that I know they did the best they could with what they knew at that time. I took ownership of my part in it by either causing their action or allowing it. Then I told them that I forgive them and let them go, declaring us both free. After doing this with certain individuals a few times, I was actually able to say, "I love you and I support your highest good." More and more, I feel released and free of the past. My reactions to people and events in my life have become more appropriate because they are not based on past experiences.

Prayer of Forgiveness

I forgive you for every way that you have hurt me. I know you did the best you could with what you knew at that time.

I am sorry for every way that I hurt you. Please forgive me.

I send you Love & Light from my heart to yours.

I sever the connection between us, with love & peace.

I lovingly set you free.

Prayer of Self-forgiveness & Release of Guilt, Shame, & Regret

(Self) I forgive you for every mistake you have ever made. I know you did the best you could with what you knew at that time.

I am proud of who you are. You are a wonderful person.

I support you in every way. I love you unconditionally.

I give you permission to let go now of every bit of guilt, shame, & regret.

I sever the cord that binds them to you with love & peace.

You are now free to live as Love & Light.

The following is a forgiveness prayer adapted from The Sermon on the Mount, by Emmet Fox. This prayer is to be done once only for each person for whom you hold resentments. Before using this prayer, it is recommended that you centre yourself in peace and love, focus on the qualities of God, and affirm that you are entirely willing to forgive now.

"I fully & freely forgive _________; I now let him/her go. I completely forgive the entire situation involving _________. It is finished forever. I cast the burden of resentment on the Christ within me. _________ is now free & I am free. I wish ________ well in all aspects of their life. The Christ within us has set us free. It is done."

Forgiving others does not necessarily mean that we must like them. We are not required to like anyone. We are to hold the thought in our mind of goodwill toward everyone, but we certainly will not want to force ourselves to like those who are hurtful, mean, or insulting. If we fail to forgive others, we will continue to be bound to them. Our resentments attach us to the objects of resentment and prevent our own progress in every area of life.

Clearing
Another method of forgiving and releasing the past is Ho'oponopono, which means, "to make right", in Hawaiian. It is a cleansing technique that you can learn more about by reading Dr. Joe Vitale's new book, "Zero Limits." The basic process is to think of someone who creates a negative emotional charge in you and focus on the feeling in you, not the person. Because we are all connected and one with God you say, "I am sorry for how I have created this. Please forgive me. Please remove this from me, and from the world. Thank you, God. I love you." There is an amazing story the book about a doctor in Hawaii that used this technique with severely mentally ill patients with remarkable success. Whenever you see someone who brings to mind feelings of pity, disgust, or anger, use this technique to clear what it is in you that has contributed to their condition. You will free yourself of the negative emotions and help that person express a higher vibration.

For my own practice, I have altered the process slightly. I think of the person I have a negative reaction to and say to them, "I recognize you as a perfect expression of God. I honour your divinity. I am sorry for every way that I have hurt you. Please for give me. I forgive you for every way that you have hurt me. Thank you for contributing to my life. I support your highest good. I love you. I bless you. I release you. We are free." When I do this, I feel light, joyful, and clear.
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Peace is to be found only within,

And unless one finds it there

He will never find it at all.

Peace lies not in the external world.

It lies within one’s own soul

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Are you able to find inner peace? This is a difficult task for many of us since the world is so busy and often frantic around us. In order to maintain good personal health it is necessary to think about inner peace. Find ways to reflect on your life and accept the things you cannot change. Meditation and breathing exercises can often help you calm your body down and find inner peace. If you cannot be at peace with yourself, it will be hard to be at peace at all... remember this as you try to become a more peaceful person.
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"Do everything with a mind that lets go. Do not expect praise or reward."
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If there is light in the soul, there will be beauty in the person. If there is beauty in the person, there will be harmony in the house. If there is harmony in the house, there will be order in the nation. If there is order in the nation, there will be peace in the world. -- Chinese Proverb
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What does it take to be happy in one's life?

 Wealth, Love or Inner Peace?

 It is difficult to define happiness and contentment. In fact, it cannot be defined at all. Essentially, one's happiness is in one's own hands. There is a saying. 'The mind is its own place an can make a hell or a heaven.' - So very true. We all know that happiness is after all a state of mind which has nothing to do with only material possessions.

I notice that no matter what we possess, we are still not happy with what we have. Wealth makes one happy to a certain extent, and, when one is in love there is happiness and contentment within you before other things take over. Yet at the same time I have seen some of the most ordinary people leading very contented and peaceful lives with the barest of essentials. One may say that they lack ambition, but, at the end of the day, I feel what is more important is to look back on your life and remember the past with a smile.

One can then safely say that once we come to terms with our life and adjust accordingly things are bound to look up. It is not really essential to have a lot of Money or wealth or other material things to make one happy in life. However there are a few requirements that are essential to make us happy and inner peace comes when all these requirements are met with. Health according to me is of primary importance without which we can never be happy..

Happiness also is all about one's attitude towards life, and how best we are able to handle it. No doubt that money and wealth has a great part to play in our lives and in making us happy and comfortable. But there are other necessities as well that are essential. Happiness largely lies with ourselves and how we look at life and our priorities. Inner Peace and happiness go together, and we keep searching for it all our lives. Desire and greed overpowers all other priorities in our lives and since there is no end to it, it can only bring in unhappiness and sorrow. It is essential to maintain a balance in our approach to life and its issues.

It is simpler things in life that give us immense happiness and contentment. Inner peace and love for others makes our life worth living. One is happiest when there is something to look forward to in life and there is a general feeling of contentment. Happiness comes with a combination of many things. Money is of course necessary, but, so are other things like human values and relationships.

Happiness, according to me is a state of mind that has very little to do with materialistic things. I have seen simple things giving us great joy, like watching a lovely sunset or listening to melodious music or watching one's children grow up. At such times everything seems right with the world. One's happiness is in one's own hands. We cannot be happy all the time since we all face pressures of some kind or the other, but, when one is determined to overcome all these adversities, and be positive, one is able to be happy and content most of the times. Being Positive is one of the most essential ingredient for happiness.





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 Ross Galán, NLP Spiritual LIfe Coach

Spiritual LIfe Coaching School